Perfectly Happy Mum!

How can children make you feel so miserable one minute and so high the next??

Yesterday was the summit of a really hard week. Ok, the week only started on Tuesday but that was also the day my husband flew away from us, for 3 days… 3 whole days! I wouldn’t blame him for that, I would love to be able to do it sometimes. If you ask him, he will say “do you think it is for fun?” Well I’ll tell you what’s fun! wearing smart clothes for a start is fun, having coffee in an Airport lounge is fun, using your brain for something else than singing “the wheels on the bus” is lots of fun!!

Anyway, I spent those 3 days he was away, solely looking after the two mini ogres and even if I love them more than anything, I kind of overdosed on them. By Friday, when my husband was back (but at work!) I can confess, I lost the plot!! beautifully, big tears, thinking what the hell have I done to get myself into that situation, meaning having children?

My husband called from work only to hear me saying that I just couldn’t cope anymore. Victor was screaming in my ear and had been for the last few days and Elliott… well Elliott was just being himself, trying to injure himself or create some chaos…

Today, was a different story.  I had a well deserved lie in (thank you my gorgeous hubby) and woke up to find 2 happy children. That’s what daddy seems to do to them… make them happy.

Then we had a great family day. The sun was shining and we walked to the market. Elliott was very grown up and helped us choosing the fruit and vegetables. If we had listened to him, we would have probably ended up with a truck load of bananas though! Then we went for fish and chips to see our big boy behaving beautifully.

I then went food shopping with Elliott alone and as I glanced in the rear mirror and saw his little happy face and heard his gorgeous voice and I realised how lucky I was: I have 2 beautiful and healthy boys, a fantastic husband (my rock!) and a brilliant future to look forward to. So tonight when I went to check them both, as they were asleep and looked at their sweet faces, I can say I was a Perfectly Happy Mum…

Let’s be kind to ourselves ladies:

• When it gets too much, get a rest! Be honest there is always stuff to do around the house, so don’t use the washing up or any other chore as an excuse. Sit down, 10 mins, have a cup of tea, and just relax… ignore what’s around and needs to be done. You will have time to do it later.
• Prioritise… assess the importance and the urgency of what needs to be done, is it
  • Urgent and important? Definitely has to be done first
  • Urgent and not important? Can wait, but keep it at the back of your mind
  • Not urgent and important? Can wait a little, but do it pretty quickly
  • Not urgent and not important? Just forget about it for now
• Remember that it is ok to cry. It does help to shed a few tears when the day has been tough. It is ok to feel like no one understands and supports you, but there is always someone who knows and understands what you are going through. Just think of all the other mums, who feel like you at the same time.
• Remember that “tomorrow is just a dream away…” Cbeebies fans will know what I mean