How to help manage our children reputation online

When I was growing up the closest I got to technology was my Nintendo Snoopy Tennis, which was at the time awesome as noone else I knew had it. My favourite uncle and techno whiz got it for me when I was just 6 years old.

There was no internet back then either, although us French had the Minitel.

There was no mobile phone when I was a teen and if you wanted to communicate with a friend the easiest would be the home phone which, if you were lucky was cordless, so you could take it to your bedroom and have a private conversation about who you fancied or what clothes you were going to wear for the party at the weekend.

The world couldn’t look more different 25 years later than since I was a teen.

Don’t get me wrong I love this world for all the opportunities it gives me to work and communicate with people in totally different places and for breaking the isolation you can experience when you work from home. I love the internet and I would be very hypocritical if I said the opposite considering that I write blogs, manage Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest and Google + accounts (I still don’t like LinkedIn).

Every now and then I wonder how I can prepare my children for when they become active online. They are only 4 and 5 yo but lets be honest, it won’t be that long before they start asking to have accounts on social networks. Once their friends start using them they will want to as well. I am an avid user but I am not in any rush to start discovering the online world.

I have to be honest and say that generally press releases sent in mass and landing in my inbox don’t tend to attract much of my attention, except for the rare few that hit a nerve, like this one. I know it will for other parents as well.

It was written by Mark Hall of Gotjuice.co.uk and here are the tips he gives to help managing our children reputation online:

Lesson 1- On the web private information is not so private

Explain to your kids that every time they update their Facebook status, upload a photo, or send a tweet, their private information has entered the public domain.

Even if they delete the photo or remove the tweet, it is more than likely that a problem wont go away: A friend could have re-tweeted or passed on the information, a photo could have been copied onto another site, and that joke they thought might have gained a couple of new followers might rebound on them. The end result is the same – things tend to stick around for a long time in cyberspace. What your child may think is private between their friends becomes public.

Lesson 2- Your child’s activity and what they share online becomes their permanent record

Every school pupil has lived in fear of damaging their permanent record where every little thing they ever did  – good or bad – was kept in a filing cabinet in the school office.

Now there’s a new kind of permanent record – the information your child shares online, and content that mentions them,which could be used against them later on in life. University admissions, employers, even potential dates will be able to view this information and form an opinion of your child without their knowledge.

Your child needs to know what to keep private, not only about themselves, but those around them.

Lesson 3 – Play nice, children

It has never been easier to communicate. For the most part, the advantages are clear to see, but the information explosion has also seen a dramatic rise in cyber-bullying.

Insults posted on social media sites can be just as hurtful and damaging as saying and doing something in real life. Social media insults can be worse, as the damage follows both the victim and the culprit around. It will always be in their pocket on a smart phone, and because everybody is more connected, there can be no avoiding it. Understanding how their actions online affect others should play an important part in your children’s social media education.

Lesson 4 – Your child’s brand

It is simple to start monitoring your child’s name and mentions online. There are many free tools such as Google Alerts, Social Mention or even simple searches on Twitter which will both alert you and give you access to anything that is published about your child.

When it comes to your child’s online reputation, taking proactive steps should never be considered a bad idea. Educating your child early on about positive steps to take will put them ahead of the curve against many adults who still operate under the assumption that their reputation online isn’t important.

Most importantly, don’t be devious about what you are doing. Let your child know you are watching their back online, but make it clear you have no interest in invading their privacy. The concerned parent should pay just as much attention to their children’s online life as they do to their welfare in the real world. And no, there need not be tantrums.

School’s out! You can find more free helpful information on how to manage your personal reputation, or that of your business at gotjuice.co.uk/blog

You can read the full Article here .

 

Big Energy Week


Do you take your energy consumption for granted? I certainly did. Actually I am grateful that at least one of us was feeling concerned about it until now.

As a general rule I am certainly aware of energy saving, but to be honest until participating to the Energy Saving Survey that Southern Electric has put together, my main concern was more about switching off lights you are not using or even replacing our light bulbs with energy saving ones.

Well the results of our survey is that our rating is currently a D! I really thought we were doing good but all we would need to improve it is to insulate our walls and loft. Doing this could save us £142 a year and we can request more information about grants available to help pay for the work done.

Here are a few tips also offered with the results that I want to share with you:

  1. Ensure that your room thermostat is set at the right temperature. The ideal temperature is 18 – 21 degrees, depending on the household. Regularly check it to make sure it has not been changed.
  2. Make sure you regularly check the heating pattern of your heating programmer to ensure that it stays in line with the current occupancy of the house. Make sure the programmer does not accidentally get set to, or left on CONSTANT by mistake. If there is a power outage, check your programmer has not lost its schedule or the clock changed.
  3. When replacing household appliances think about buying A-rated goods as these will use less power saving you money and helping the environment.
  4. An old boiler can be inefficient and cost you too much money. Replacing your boiler with a new A-rated model could save you over £200 a year.

This week is Big Energy Week and Southern Electric is working with Citizens Advice, charities, consumer groups, switching sites, Ofgem and the Government to give practical advice to people across the country to help them spend less on heating and powering their home.

SSE has a number of key initiatives to help save money on energy bills as well as helping the environment:

  • Southern Electric’s iPlan tariff is designed to help you save on your day-to-day energy expenses, with a free smart energy kit – which includes an energy usage display screen that can be linked to an online account to help you plan your energy use to suit you, and track how much money you save.
  • There’s also an Energy Efficiency Survey, which gives your home an energy efficiency rating and provides tips on any improvements that could be made.
  • Finally, Southern Electric has some handy energy-saving tips – did you know that your TV, DVD and Hi-Fi use energy when not in use? Up to 90% in standby mode!

It’s a brilliant way to find out where you could be saving costs and helping the environment at the same time, no harm in trying out the tips to see just how much money you can save!

Make sure you visit the energy saving tips page for more tips on saving energy and visit the iPlan Tariff page to help you save on a day to day basis.

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Movember, the month previously known as November!

This month men (and sometimes women!) grow a moustache for a good cause.

The funds raised in the UK support the number one and two male specific cancers – prostate and testicular cancer. The funds raised are directed to programmes run directly by Movember and our men’s health partners, The Prostate Cancer Charity and the Institute of Cancer Research. (http://uk.movember.com)

118 118 worked with our gorgeous blogger Alice Harold, author More Than Toast (great read by the way) to create a Facebook App in order to show their support to the cause. What they came up with is rather fun I have to say, take a look now and have a go yourself!

Not only 118 118 will donate £1 pound for everyone uploading the photo created to their profile picture but the photo with the most votes will win an ipad2!

So off you go and have fun for the good cause!

Click here for the Facebook App

Peter Pan Week for Great Ormond Street Hospital

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Do something fun and raise money for an amazing cause!

Great Ormond Street Hospital for Children NHS Trust (GOSH) has been a national centre of excellence in children healthcare for over 150 years and to keep going they need funds, lots of it!

Peter Pan has helped raise these much needed funds for years and although the total amount cannot be disclosed, it has helped with the researches and improving the facilities so many children need to get better.

When you become a parent children suffering is not bearable and this is why I was more than delighted and honoured to be asked to talk about the Peter Pan Week.

This year it will take place from the 26th to the 30th of April 2010 and there is lots you can do to take part so please visit this page to find how you can get involved and help making a difference for children and their families.

This year the money raised will help building two new en-suite bedrooms in the cardiac centre. The current facilities are cramped and the new rooms will mean having enough space for life saving equipment and a spare bed for mum and dad, making it a much less frightening experience for the whole family.

Come on have fun and help getting this much needed money!!

British Mummy Bloggers for Haiti

Haiti Shelter box 

The events currently happening in Haiti are heartbreaking. It is sometime hard to believe in a God in front of such pain and misery. And why these things have to happen? Why do people have to suffer, lose members of their family in such tragic circumstances and sometime not knowing where they are and living in hope that they are ok. Why do parents have to witness their children's death or children become orphans. Why do they have to lose everything from their home to their dignity? And why do they have to be robbed of what's left of their possessions by unscrupulous thieves? In some cases maybe these thieves are doing it for a good reason? Maybe it is to feed their own family? That's what I like to believe anyway. 

Unfortunately none of us can uncover the "why"s. What we can do however is unite in a big powerful front and give anything we can, big or small. 

Spare anything you can! 

Money is of course what they need most. Money will help them with food, shelter and medical support. You can donate here and even a few pennies can make the difference: 

Bloggers for Haiti – Just Giving

Save the Children

DEC Haiti Earthquake Appeal

UNICEF

If you can't spare much money spare a thought, a prayer or a hope that they are going to be ok. Send a wish that they will get over this trauma and learn to live with their losses. Pray that the aftermath will not bring more pain than what they have already been through. 

Let's unite, donate and spread the news! 

For more British Mummy Bloggers involved see the post written by Susanna at A Modern Mother and the comments. 

Photo Credit UNICEF Website

Children need your help?

I came across this post written by Mummy Tips. It is about a very worthy cause and children need your help!

Please if you agree go and sign the petition and if you feel going the extra mile, post something about it to raise awareness.

You can make a difference…

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Pledge Update…

Chocolate eclairs








I have to give myself a pat in the back and lots of clapping!! So far I have not asked for a new bag and not even with the weekly shopping at Sainsbury’s. I managed to reuse my 2 gorgeous IKEA bags, along with my 2 gorgeous TKMaxx ones, along with 6 old sainsbury’s bag.
So apart from the extra nectar points thanks to my 10 reused bags, I left with a massive sense of achievement and pride!

I have to say that the idea of sitting in front of chocolate eclairs without eating them, is a bit like hell for me. I just can’t let this happen! Craig chose chocolate eclairs as punishment for failed pledge, because they are my absolute favourite treats. It has to be the ones from Paul’s with yummy chocolate cream inside, because I have to break it to all of you non French friends, but real eclairs au chocolat are made of chocolate cream not chantilly cream! This is sacrilege not to use chocolate cream!!

So anyway so far I am doing really well and I intend to keep going. How are you doing?

Please don’t forget that the domain name is now changed to www.perfectlyhappymum.com so update your blogrolls and resubscribe if you were subscribers. Thank you!!

Image from La Mia Cucina